#JohnAndJaneGetHitched. #MacDonaldWedding. #MrAndMrsBonacini. #HappilyEverWilson.
If you’ve been on Instagram in the past year or so, you’ll have seen your fair share of these. Custom wedding hashtags have become a normal part of tying the knot.
In case you’ve managed to avoid all this nonsense and are unsure of what we mean, they make any photo on social media (predominantly Instagram) searchable by typing in that specific hashtag. So whoever uses it in their photo becomes a part of your “movement.”
Your “special day” becomes everyone’s special day.
Why would we miss the chance of putting our treasured moments even more in the limelight? Or in this case, screen light. Before we dive into why this is ruining humanity, let’s try and look at some positives.
Well, there’s the added attention — attention not all of us want.
You can find photos you didn’t know were taken — and also discover those you wish you hadn’t seen.
Hmmm, seems all the positives have an equally, if not more, negative side.
Come on, people! Doesn’t hashtagging the most important day of your life make it just like any other day?
You’ve put substantial time into building a relationship with the person you’re marrying. You’ve spent countless dollars and hours on putting the whole event together. You’ve specially ordered printed invitations asking people dearest to you to be there. You’ve hired both a professional photographer and videographer to document the entire thing, from the putting on of the dress to the “Just Married” on the back of the car you drive away in.
Time, effort, blood, sweat, tears — all punched in the gut by adding in a #DonnaAndMikeWedding to every photo people take.
Carefully choosing a guest list and mailing out invitations makes the event a pretty exclusive thing. So why would you waste that “special” quality on a hashtag that makes it all mainstream?
In case you haven’t been able to tell, we think wedding hashtags ruin the magic of the big day. And they definitely decrease the value of your hired photographer. Cause nowadays everyone is a photographer. Sorry, Ansel.
Maybe the newer generations disagree. Maybe all that effort is worth publicizing to anyone and everyone.
Would people remember the event any less if they were limited to viewing the photos?
On the contrary. They’d probably remember it even more, as it wouldn’t get lost in the tidal wave of hashtags they encounter in their daily newsfeed.
But don’t let the weddings take all the credit. #SheSaidYes, #Engaged and #FutureMrsMacDonald share the same sentiment.
And don’t worry about putting any more work into your wedding; there’s a wedding hashtag generator to do the most important thing for you.
Can you believe there was actually a time when waiting on someone’s reply lasted weeks, if not months? And people these days struggle to respond to texts in the same day, blaming it on “being too busy.”
How long would it take if they actually had to sit down at a table with their pen and paper and not only think about everything they’re going to write, but physically write it? People these days would give up on communicating altogether if these were the circumstances.
We take our time for granted.
For centuries, the only means of communicating with people outside our immediate vicinities was by writing letters. And what a beautiful and under-acknowledged art that was — or is (there must be remnants of people writing letters still floating around somewhere).
If you’re talking to the given individual every few weeks, you better get out a few weeks’ worth of information for them to digest until the next letter arrives. And that takes planning. You need to arrange all those words so they tell a story. Get all your thoughts together in a way that’s organized in chronological order — beginning, middle, end. Compare that to a single emoji text message. Pathetic.
If technology was taken away from us today so our only means of communicating was through letters, would we be able to adapt?
Imagine having no cell phones, no landlines, no email, no INTERNET. Nothing but pen, paper and an address book filled out by hand. The only way to know what’s up is by writing it down and asking each person directly.
Where would you even begin?
You need to make plans for the weekend with a few different people and need to know their schedules before you can make yours. You better prepare ahead of time, cause those letters take at least 24-48 hours to get there, plus the same amount of time to return (assuming your other party responds immediately — good luck with that). Time to sit down and write.
First, you’d have to ask them how they are and what’s new (to show you actually still care about them). After that you can fill them in about your own doings (to show you care about them enough to share your own life). Only then can you get down to business and ask what it is you really need: I’d love to see you and catch up in person. How’s the weekend after next?
If something as simple as meeting a friend for a coffee was this complicated, would we even bother with friends anymore? Remember, since the Internet would be gone from our lives, Facebook friends don’t count.
And this example is just a simple “Hi, how are you?” letter. Imagine if you have months’ worth of catching up to do.
For those who say maintaining relationships these days takes work, count your blessings. The people who lived in the days before instant messaging deserve a huge pat on the back.
Going back to simpler days may be a nice change of scenery. Revisit this lost art; write a letter to someone.
Bookmark, reminder, confession, lunch note, organizer, art medium — you name it. Post-its have played the role. Sex and the City’s Carrie Bradshaw even got dumped with one. Heck, the notes outlining this blog post were written on one.
It’s crazy how such a simple product plays so many roles in our everyday lives. While both the low-tack adhesive and pale yellow colour were developed by accident, the end result stuck. Pun intended. And they’ve become available in every shape, colour and size you can think of.
So why are Post-its so popular?
They can be used on so many occasions in so many ways. They don’t need instructions. Wherever you need to stick a note, go for it. Offices wouldn’t be the same without them. A lot more would be forgotten without them. They’ve even developed phone and desktop sticky note apps. (You know it’s relevant when Apple’s on board.)
A little paper square with a strip of glue on the back. That’s it. Their simplicity is what makes them so versatile in the first place. Sticky — but not too sticky — and easily re-stickable. Look, they even inspire us to invent new words. We can make Post-its into whatever we want them to be. From a note to a mural, to a brainstorming session to a series of outfits for a fashion runway.
Realistically, anything you need to say to someone should be able to fit on a Post-it. People just like to complicate things. From messages like, “Thanks for last night,” to, “Buy milk,” to, “See me in my office,” a lot can be said with one little note. Thankfully, you don’t have room to beat around the bush. A break-up can consist of hours of back and forth conversation with tears, explanations and over-analyzing. But really, it can be done with a simple, “You’re not worth my time anymore.” Or you can do a quick sketch of a hand giving the middle finger. A picture is worth a thousand words, right?
A note left on your desk saying “you’re cute” can make the most mundane day more interesting. Who wrote it? When did they leave it on my desk? Whose handwriting does it resemble? Who in this office has that colour of Post-its? Time to summon your inner Sherlock Holmes in trying to connect the dots. It’s the anonymity that makes things fun. Even if it is something as mundane as “you’re cute.”
Obviously, we as writers and editors hold Post-its in a special place. Especially the OCD editors who need to have everything organized and colour-coded. But they really do help anyone and everyone stay on top of things.
We love you, Post-its — don’t ever change.